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Friday, November 6, 2009

Forgivness.... my mom & ex daughter in law storey


Isn't it strange that at the most difficult time in peoples lives something beautiful can take place? I have always wanted to talk to Mom about this very sensitive matter but was too scared too, fear of her harsh words towards me, fear of her trying to change my mind, but most of the fear of her being mad at me, and all it took was a neighbor of hers and my step dads to do what I've been wanting to do for so long....talk to her about forgiveness! The forgiveness most mother's don't want to have when you have hurt and bruised one of her children's heart, but this wonderful neighbor, who is a Christan, showed momma bible verses about forgiveness and the peace she will feel, the forgiveness to my brothers first and only wife, who had broke my brothers heart, by being unfaithful to him! and in the early part of their broken marriage, I was angry at her, but it was then I realized " Who are you to judge Annette?" we don't know what made her do it, I can tell of things I MIGHT think made it happen, but who am I? The family only heard one side of the storey, and it was my brothers side, we weren't with them 24/7, I know we would like to think the blame is all her, but it takes 2, 2 seconds to judge, 2 seconds to ask for forgiveness, and that is just what my Mom has done, she has written "E" a little note and told her she has forgiven her! HALLELUJAH!! PRAISE GOD!!! Mom knows that now that she has forgiven "E" she is not to bad mouth her, or think bad thoughts, to forgive is to litterly forget. I told mom "Do you know by not asking for forgiveness from "E" that it could be the one thing that will keep you from seeing Dad and Joey? and my brother would never fully experience peace, but now he can, and now you will see them"
I am very good friends with her, I love her, she did make my brother very happy at one time in his life, and with out her I would not have the most beautifulest nephew and niece! I don't tell Momma that I talk to "E" on the phone or the computer and that we meet up from time to t
ime, sometimes things are better off left unsaid, but the one thing I am thankful to our God for is something that is finally said "Forgive me please" and for some reason today I feel peace with myself, o wait a minute I might have spoken to soon, the tears are coming and the throat is trying to choke up.....I have witnessed that peace that forgiveness gives us and what a beautiful face I see on our Mom now!
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5 comments:

Donetta said...

Did your Mom ask "E" to forgive her?

I so hope it was two sided as in the offer of and the request for forgiveness,now that is the picture of humility.

Even thus far is huge! Oh the peace it must bring to you to know that the strife is over after so many years.

Now remember this...
that your brother as a believer stands at the right hand of GOD! ever interceding for you both day and night.
Think about it...
I can just see him worshiping God for honoring his prayers that the two women he loved are at peace.

did not mean to choke you up again:)
This is so wonderful!

Patti said...

It is so nice to have peace in ones heart.
God Bless your Mom for this. It is the right thing to do.
Hugs
Patti

Vickie said...

Annette, I'm so grateful for you to be finding peace. I often think of you and wonder how you're doing.

Joni said...

A lovely story. I'm so glad your mom found it in her heart to be forgiving. Have a beautiful day my friend ~

kimberly said...

i really enjoy this quotes about forgiveness...
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes

i am so happy for your mom...your brother's first wife and for you! i know it has been hard on you also.....it just is so much more peaceful and joyful....i also truly believe the quote that says

" The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Mahatma Gandhi
it isn't one of the easiest things these human hearts and minds of ours can wrap themselves around, is it?
love this and love you.
kimberly

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