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Saturday, November 15, 2008

" Whats a mom to do?"


I really don't know how to start this, this morning.....I am feeling so guilty this morning for feeling the way I do towards my daughter boyfriend, in the beginning of their relationship I really liked him, I thought "What a gentleman...open and closes the door for her, brings her home at a decent time, ask me if it's OK to take her out, sits and chit chats with me, does things with her brother" so on and so on then it's just like over night a complete 180 turn, thing's change, he has no respect anymore for her or anyone for that matter in my home, and I don't like it all, he tells her not to discuss their problems with me, that's it's none of my business, not my business! bull hockey..it is when my daughter is upset and it has my home in an up roar. I've sat here all morning playing out a conversion in my head on what I'd like to say to him, but I don't know...I've asked God to please forgive me for thinking ugly thoughts about him, I'd like to just start all over with him, but then I don't know. I can sit here and tell all the ugly things about him, but he does have a very beautiful side to, I just haven't seen it in awhile, so when you don't see things you tend to forget them, he hasn't come in my home for a week now, I think it might be shame and I don't ever want anyone, I don't care who you are, or what you've done to be afraid to come in my home, my heart loves so deeply but when you've missed with one or both of my children I'm like a mama bear protecting her babies, I get over it as fast as I get mad, I've always been like that, no grudge holding here, and I forget about it too cause it's a sin not too, " To forgive is to forget" is so true....I just want things back like they use to be, I feel the both of them have forgotten how to enjoy each others company and live in the moment, and leave yesterday's argument in the garbage can, and both have forgotten how to have respect for each other and respect for my home. It's gotten me sad cause I don't like feeling this way about someone that I thought was so awesome at one time, and I know still can be...so how do I get the ball to slow down in this game of kick ball?

3 comments:

Vickie said...

Anette, I'm so sorry to hear that. You have a good heart. Listen to that little voice God gave you to keep you safe and on the right path. Maybe there is good reason to feel the way you do. Maybe the two of them could go talk to someone neutral? Anyway, I'll say a prayer.

Anonymous said...

Maybe you could ask them to come over and talk to them and tell them how you feel.
Ask him what is wrong and why he has been acting the way he has been acting.
I will say a prayer for you..
xoxo Nita

Just Joni said...

Kids are in such a hurry to grow up, but once they get in a relationship there are usually some underlying grown-up matters that tend to interfere with the simplicity of the relationship. I say concentrate on the fun and don't let the politics of the relationship steer it into being so serious all the time. Amanda is the one who needs to set Chris straight on respecting you and your home that way you don't come across as being a meddling mom and she establishes her voice and her willingness to use it. If he isn't respectful then...well, I have a taser you can borrow.

Just kidding...just kidding.

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